(A very old post. Guessing some time before 2015, as my aunt and godmother admitted in the Summer that year that she had hated my dad and also hated me for being like him. My dad was a good person!)
WHY is that so? It's scary, but it's like a stranger on the net KNOWS that you've been projected in exactly that way, so they attack you with exactly what you obviously at that exact moment is working with - the unfair, untrue, projection that totally delete your true intent and actions.
Exactly what is right now on your mind is picked up, out of the blue, in a comment, and you get such a reaction. Seen it so many times, and it's so toxic. Their comment often is totally contradictory to what you've written too, so they choose to NOT read what you've written and project THEIR thoughts, their made up opinions about ME - a total stranger, this toxic person NEVER met.
It's uncanning how this happens, so it's not only inside your own family. I've been told by my aunt, for instance, when I was 22 yrs old, how UNFAIR she could see I was treated. Then she too treated me like shit. I have now for 31 yrs given her the benifite of the doubt, but now she's admitten she's cut me out or her will.
WHY? She told me 3 yrs ago that now my "entitled mommy's favorites" would become terrible during the inheritance after my father, her brother. And now she's cut ME out? WTF?
And then I wrote under my more irl nick a comment about her from my youth, and immediately someone projected EXACTLY my aunt's mean nasty evil projections. I have no empathy...
So I gave her my ONLY x-mas gift from dad when 14, cause I lacked empathy? Not cause of empathy, as dad had lost her gift, so I felt sorry for her. Ok, that was interesting. And I paid ALL my money to her friend, cause my brother refused to, and our parents would not, after my brother had let the dog loose and she killed aunt's friends chickens.
So that was out of "selfishness"? NO, I felt so sorry for the GROWN UPS that I paid. 35 yrs later I find out my aunt told her friend I had killed her chickens, and then refused to pay for them. WTF?
I'm telling you, people telling others they LACK empathy, without knowing SHIT are the ones lacking empathy. I'm right now so upset, as this aunt seems to be one of those narcs who love to see others in pain and treated badly, so she has used my empathy and my feelings against me. Making me feel sorry for her, and helping her out many more times then what I mentioned, and then turning the table on me.
She's doing the same with the other scapegoat in our family. And she KNOWS we are scapegoats, as she's mentioned it. Still she chooses to believe any smear she hears about us, and twist any information about us into more smear.
I wrote to her that maybe one day a son of mine would live on father's farm and make his dream come true that horses would be there again, as his fiancée has horses. Then I heard from the other scapegoat the aunt had RAGED over how me and my children and horses had no right to be on the farm!
I thought she LOVED me, as she's my godmother and she has no children of her own. I've choosen to think she was just in a bad mood, that she'd heard smear, or whatever, but I have to face facts. Noone cut a heir out of her will for nothing. She truly must hate me, just cause I am - cause I exist.
Why? Cause she said that my mother was severely punished for her dying brother killing himself, while she agreed it was totally reasonable if my mother wished death upon me. Nothing special in loosing a child in her prime years, apparently!
I was appaulled how my mother was projecting death unto me, likening my fate to my granny's, my aunt's mother's, who died in the age I'm now in. I almost had died after beind very poorly for many years back in 2011, so this is a sensitive subject, as nobody cared in my family. That hurt me alot.
Mother only cared if I could take her dog. The only thing my aunt seemed to mind was the idea I'd had anything in common with her "angel" of a mother. As my mother had warned me to not be like my granny, whom I've been told I am indeed very like, and I can see I have many similar interests as and she seemed to have been a loving and caring person.
The aunt then likened me to father, who was their mother's favorite, and in my opinion the child most like this granny. Why does it offend this aunt so much any mentioning of me and her mother as having ANYTHING in common? That is the question.
She refuses to tell me anything about her mother, and I've never met my granny. It's like "it's none of your business", while I know there is no problem for my sociopathic lying sister to find out things like this. They've been very helpful there, and my sister even took granny's name.
That is a whole story of itself, as I was pregnant and told my sister I was thinking about granny's name. I lost my baby, and got married, my sister was brides maid and said nothing about any name change. A few days later she turned 18 and took the name. Still, my aunt thinks it has nothing to do with me and naming my baby, but I think it does, as our mother blamed me for it.
Why would it be my fault if it was not to punish me? Why did not my sister tell me her plans, as she normally did? Cause she was trying to hurt me, of course. This aunt and her sister both have said I'm the evil sister and my kitty-killing, forerst-burning, (unmentional other tributes) sister is the angel. Well, she seems to be, until you unveil her mask...
So it seems like I'm cut out of the will, but I'm sure she is not, as mother was gloating last year when this happened. (Mother half lied, none of us was in her will.) I just finally found out it was true, and not a fantasy by mother!
Well, this was the final straw and I've decided to go no contact with the whole extended family, all cousins and everything. I've finally realized I have never been wanted, and that even if a few did want me around the toxin and lies will always be around.
How can I fight these ghosts? I can't. They rather - all of them - speak no evil, hear no evil, but believe all evil (about us smeared ones)...
