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lördag 21 mars 2015

Narcissistic Trait - Overstepping Boundaries

Sometimes we don't read a reply from someone until a year later for a reason.

I don't know if it's okey for me to publish this thread that occured on another persons blog. But shortly after she'd been found by the family she turned the blog off so I could not find it anymore. I found the reply to my comments to these two young persons nasty remarks to an older relative thanks to Google+ saving them. In my opionion it's a sign of malignancy that you have to write such malicious things to another person, as there is nothing in her blog that deserves this. I have not been able to find the first comment made by the nephew - Taras boyfriend Brian? - where he says it was lies that his mother had done a thing the blog mentioned. The blogger writes she had evidence however. I replied to him and asked him politely if he'd asked his aunt for the evidence, and so far Brian has been totally unable to answer my question. This is the same behavior as my rotten to the core relatives have. They stall to not have to admit that they DO NOT CARE for the evidence.

At the end it's better to know then to guess.

Here is the comment by Tara to only nice words about her in the blog. She pretends she doesn't want to be named on the blog and then writes under her own surname, which does not make any logical sense to me:
Tara Brantley - 27 jan. 2014
Let me start by saying this is the "nice mom". My son is kade. The grandchild of Linda. He's a Blackwell and they are considered my family now. Thank u for speaking highly of me but u don't know me or my son. U don't even know ur own nephews at that. So maybe u should learn to keep ur mouth shut. Now write a blog on bitch moms bc that's me ;) 
Ur a evil person who needs help and a life. Maybe a hobby to. Start at the gym!!! DONT EVER WRITE ABOUT MY FAMILY AGAIN. WE ARE NON OF YOUR DAMN BUSINESS. LEAVE MY SONS NAME OUT OF UR BLOGS AND UR MOUTH!!!!!!!!! Now god bless

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What is even worse is people trying to prove people wrong, like Tara did.
Me again: Tara is not a nice person obviously, as she just proved the aunt wrong in her reply to the aunt. A nice person should had written a personal message to their aunt, and asked politely to not write their names out in her blog. I will here suggest how she'd write it, to not behave unbalanced, like she does above:

"Dear aunt, could you please respect my wishes to have my sons name and my name deleted from your blog? Also, I'd be very thankful if you'd not use any names on people I now concider my family, as I don't want people to know what you talk about has to do with this family. Thanks for your help, Tara."

Count on being hated if you leave the abusive situation.
To this comment by Tara the blog writer wrote a very kind reply, but it's not there anymore, unfortunately. I've never seen ANY nasty comments or remarks by this lady about her family, and this is the way they treat her. This is NOT the way you talk to older relatives - EVER. I feel filled with shame - for Brian and Tara - when I read their comments to their aunt. But this is what they do - write nasty things to their abuse victims - in these kind of families. It's the poor litte beaten down little sick lady they attack this way!!! That's the horrible truth. You should had heard what my narc brother was screaming to my very old and kidney sick aunt and my old and heart sick father when nobody was listening. I wish I had. All I have is the words of the aunt and she was totally in shock when she told me. Or the things my mother was yelling at her old and cancer sick mother. But again, nobody else could hear as the abuse went on with the old and sick alone with their abuser! That's why it's gold when they WRITE their evil comments down like this, as it's proof how rude and heartless some can be towards others.

A woman is not a good mother just cause she gave birth to a child.
Here is what I replied to the blog owner, as she was so very kind to this Tara despite of this young woman's total lack of selfcontrol:

Ingis - 16 mars 2014
I think you were way too nice, but I get were you come from in replying this way. She's already "infested" with the bug. I've seen this before. It's cause of all the hateful lies they've been fed, so to them, whatever is written, how true it might be, will always be "evil lies" as that is what they've been brainwashed to believe. What upset me most with Brian's post is how he totally ignored that about your health. I bet he's heard it's all in your head. That's my guess, as I overheard my sis lie to her husband that she had no idea I've been seriously ill. She immediatly changed the topic, instead of asking him "What do you mean", like a normal person. So, why did he seem to think that was normal, just ignoring this information? My bet, and only my guess, is that he already "knew" I was a liar and that whatever I said was no big deal. Perhaps my sis explained it to him later, how I "always make up stuff like that". Which is totally insane, but I've come to realize that these people ARE totally insane. About checking for evidence, those brainwashed will never ever dream about actually checking real physical evidence. When confronted with such evidence they will only ignore it. That's the power of belief. 

It's scary to contact someone as you don't know their reactions.
Here is a comment from Brian under Tara's very insulting input, in respons to my comment to his aunt, not to Tara, as I was not talking to the rude girl:

Brian Blackwell - 18 mars 2014
Look, I'm sorry that Susan is so messed up. I mean, she's been a complete wreck. That sucks. Just don't take it out on my family by inventing a bunch of hateful nonsense and then creating blogs (plural!) just to broadcast it. This blog clearly demonstrates how confused she still is.

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Abusers like to get you all alone so they can easily destroy you.
Me again: Remember - there was NOTHING hateful in the blog Brian refers to about any of them. They are only projecting unto their aunt their own feelings. 

After I found Brians new insults to his aunt I replied now a year later - as soon as I read it:

Ingis - 17 mars 2015
Interesting how you proved my points to a teeth. You did not once argue against the statements about evidence, so obviously you, just like my family, does NOT care for reality. If there is something pathologically ILL it's psychotic people living in a fairy world, with no contact with reality. And guess what, Brian? Alice in Wonderland... If you walk among crazy people too long you're bound to get a bit crazy too. So don't blame "Alice". Atleast she got out and got help. When will you?

The Cat warns Alice as craziness are contagious.
Here are a couple of more comments from Brian after I've tried to wind him up to get him to show his cards:

Brian Blackwell - 19 mars 2015
Of course there is no evidence. I don't go around documenting my interactions with my family. It wouldn't surprise my in the least if my aunt did, though. She's out there. Like fuckin' Pluto. I was simply relating my memories of the events that occurred. They're probably not one hundred percent accurate, because, of course memory never is, but they're not some sort of bizarre fabrication. The majority of your comment is nonsensical - are you off your meds? - but you at least you managed to resuscitate part of this petty, sophomoric blog that my aunt frantically deleted when some folks called her on her bullshit. 

People can either uplift you or crush you, so be wise whom you let in.
Brian Blackwell - 19 mars 2015
By the way, I sort of figured the blog had only been made private, not deleted. Gotta insulate that sad little community - the what? three people who read it? Wait, who lacks contact with reality, again?

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Me again: As you can see he makes a pathetic attempt on bullying me too. Modus operandi for the narcissist! And - NOTICE ONE THING - this is a major warning I've been putting out there a long time for people dealing with narcissists and abusers. NEVER EVER DELETE YOUR BLOGS or anything you have going due to them finding them, as they will spread smear about you doing it cause "they called you out on your bullshit". To me it's gold the way Brian keeps on deflecting the issue as he was not prepared that someone would speak up for his aunt. He had like all bullies convinced himself she was all on her own and that noone cared for her. It's cause people don't want to do the tango of the narcissist - the shouting and calling names - they manage to convince themselves that their target is all alone. In many cases most people are on the side of the one they are targeting. In this case there might actually only be Brian, his mom, girlfriend, granny and a few odd malicios hags and shitheads that wish to smear some sweet woman they've bullied a lifetime. All the while most in the extended family might think they are just prats, all of them, and their "righteousness" is merely in their heads. That might very well be the case.

When you walk away count on being lied about.
Us nice people don't like drama and we don't like being insulted and we don't like really to insult our relatives, so we tend to withdraw when the mean narcissists start their hate campaign on us. That is another big WARNING. They will use this grand "being gracious and not fight back" attitude of ours as a weapon in their smear campaign and claim that you are off in a corner feeling SHAME !!! That you are "hiding out of guilt", and so on. A narcissist will use ANYTHING you do or don't do to your disadvantage and their advantage.

Isn't there anything we can do then? Well, there is. Don't budge one inch. Never give in, never give up, just be yourself and keep on going. And do not care what they say about you. Don't care that they find your blogs, use that to your advantage. They have weak spots - their huge egos. If you write things that triggers them they might start such a ridiculous hate campaign that it's not possible for people to not feel sick of them. That's to your advantage, as they will then come out as the bullies they are. The triggers must not be anything openly rude or nasty, like Brians and Taras comments are, but something looking nice to others. Like this blog by Susan was.

This is the reason I never replies to any lying shit my family say about me.
Susans blog was a delight to read and it's a shame she gave in to them and closed it. Perhaps she didn't want others to see how badly raised Brian was by his mother and how rude this girl Tara was? Perhaps she wanted to spare them the embarassment? On the other hand - today behaviors like Brian's and Tara's are the norm and nice people like this lady Susan is not. Nice is precious and what's normalized is hateful behavior. To bully people into submission and silence them has become the norm. To listen to the harmed people has become a rare thing. But things are changing - the meek is standing up and wont have this anymore. That's why the bullies are screaming so loud right now - they feel it. They feel that the meek wont stand this much longer. The mouse is roaring - the mouse has become a lion. And the bullies are just little calves really... :D

Truth is not going away even when all believe the lie.
Here is my comment to Brian from yesterday when I kept pushing the question - whether he ever asked for the evidence:

Ingis - Yesterday 00:12
1) "Of course there is no evidence": That is no proof there is none that you "imagine" that there are none. I still get the very clear impression that you've not ASKED for the evidence. Just like none in my family ever did and when I post the evidence they instead focus on nonsens, just like you do. It's called "divertion" and a tactic used to confuse and hide truth. 

2) Your insults don't bother me as they only confirm that you are suffering from a malignant personality disorder as you were indeed extremely rude in all your replies to your aunt, so no wonder she made her blog privat. You are harassing a poor woman, something I hope I'll never have to live and see any of my nephews do. Shame on you! Bad boy. :D 

3) Please reply to me in my own language from now on and then make it perfectly without ever lived in my country one second of your pathetic life - prat. (Or perhaps you didn't get the Alice reference? No wonder then - prats rarely get much.)

If you speak the truth you will only hear insults from those bastards.
Here is Brians last comment, after he yet again refused to answer my question if he ever has asked his aunt for the evidence:

Brian Blackwell - Today 01:48
My aunt made crazy malicious claims against my mom. I was irate about her manipulative and hostile behavior. Now, her character assignation strategy has gone from infuriating to boring, just like this conversation. Peace out.
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Me again: I honestly have a very hard time to understand Brian's english. He says my comments make no sense, but I'm not english speaking. He is. So why doesn't his make sense? What is a "character assignation strategy"??? You assign something to someone like a job, so is his aunt trying to give his mother character? But that is very nice of her! I don't get Brians problem with letting the older sister try to teach her younger sister some good manners, right from wrong - well, you know - all signs of a person with a solid character. Something Brian himself has shown he lacked when he wrote those words above about his aunt. He does not even know what went on, like he claims in a comment further up. Like HE was there during their upbringing, which is ridiculous. So much on his aunts blog he cannot possible know, so how can he even say she's lying? And the claims against his mom his aunt says she has EVIDENCE of, which Brian refuses to look at, or even ask for. He even refuses to talk about them.

There are many more better signs.
NOTICE - Brian refuses to answer the question if he EVER has asked his aunt for this evidence she claims she has of what she says about his mother. I've told Brian that this is the same behavior my family has, that noone wants to hear or see my evidence that my sister is lying about me. Just like Brian they only defame me and lie more about me, and REFUSE to hear or see the evidence. When they do see some, they pretend to not understand, and then they lie about the content of the evidence to confuse people. Brian keeps avoiding the question, which makes it clear he never has seen the evidence and most certainly never tried to. Sadly, even if Brian had seen the evidence I'm sure he'd do like my relatives when they heard I had a witness confirming my side, which totally destroyed the credibility of my sister, which was to ignore this fact. That's what bullies do - even when shown evidence they lie about it and ignore it. So it would not matter if Brian seen it, I only wanted to hear himself say what he'd done. When he kept avoiding the question it was clear that he didn't want to know, and that is a typical sign of mind control. Like many say - sociopaths are like wicked witches putting a spell on people so they can't see or hear properly. I call such sociopathic liars for enchanters and to those under their spell the witch's every word is like the gospel of god almighty. When you get too close to shake the foundation of a true believer they will run away from you, just like Brian did. He didn't want to speak to me. he he he

Even if Brian is a narcissist there is no excuse for him being rude to his aunt.
My sister and brother claim they can prove I'm a liar, but their proof is that I'm naming her Bertilsson in 1996. She married in 1994 and was married until 1999, and then called Bertilsson. That's their ONLY proof that I'm a liar! And it does not make sense as she WAS CALLED that name then, so they are the liars by refering to nonsens. They are using this claim about the "wrong name" I gave to prove that I've not read the paper it was on. They try to make people believe the paper was from 1992, obviously, but I clearly state in their own "proof" that the paper was from 1996. Then they say that this is proof of me never reading the paper, and then they accuse me of stealing the same paper. Isn't that insane for you? I'm supposed to NEVER have read the paper and at the same time my relatives are accusing me of stealing it. Guess when I did that stealing? When I can prove I was far far away on another place and there are physical evidence that I was no where near that place at that time. Do they care? Of course they don't. They all know my sister is lying about me when she says I didn't read the paper, and they all know she lies when she says I've stolen it. They all know that I was not there at the time she says I was, and that I didn't look through those drawers which she says I did. She's so full of lies, and they all know she is, but they don't care. As long as they can frame me for all of her doing, it's fine with my bad brother, my nasty mother and all the rest of my hateful relatives.

Those who refuse to learn never get wiser.
But Brian gets nothing I write as he must be very bad in english, as I'm sure he ment "character assassination" and not assignation - is that a word even? Yes it is and I was totally 100% correct in what it ment! It means to assign something to somebody, like in this case to assign character, so hence wanting to aid and help this person to become a better person. To me it seems that some higher forces aided Brian in his writting and without him noticing it made him write the correct version of reality. That his dear aunt was helpfully trying to aid his mother gaining some better qualities to her character. Wasn't that nice of her, wasn't that sweet? Indeed it was! How I must adore it when higher forces do that - make people write the truth while trying to write the lie. Many like to call this a Freaudian slip, like your unconscious mind leaks through and makes you say the truth instead of what you indended to say. Indeed, that might be what happened as I'm sure Brian knows the truth, but adores his mother too much to see it. He's her pet and he wants to stay in her favor, so by bullying her sister he hopes his mama is going to love him more - I bet. he he he

Abusers have no empathy so there is no reason to cry for them, leave them.
Here is my two last replies to Brians comments, and I do admit that I'm not such a sweetheart as his aunt is and I doubt she'd even like me speaking like this to poor deluded Brian-boy, but I don't know him and he's just another prat on the net to me: 

Ingis - Today 12:38
Did your mother approve of you two writing insulting messages to her sister like this? If she did support your aggressions I'd say all that is said on this blog about her being a narcissist then is confirmed, if she did. If she didn't approve of your behavior I think it's a good choice of you to crawl back under her skirt and don't do it again, little boy and little girl Tara too. I've heard worse things uttered about my mother then what this sweet lady says about your mom and I still love them saying it as it was all true. Remember that - it took me 20 years to realize it was all true, and was I glad I'd not behaved like dritsaks (=shitbags) then and treated my uncles and aunts badly. I know this is not the only relative you have that has left the nest to never return again. I've read this blog and it's clear this is the second aunt doing that. It was a long time ago since I read it - since it's not up anymore and I only found your reply thanks to my Google+ account. But I do seem to remember there was an uncle too. 

I'm a knitter so all narcissistic vampires - beware!
So, how come you try to make me think this is an anomally? I think she's very brave who dares to write about her childhood and feelings. A very brave woman, though I don't know her, but I've read what she has to say many times and it's clear she knows what she talks about. She's a classic narcissistic abuse survivor, whom of course suffered alot from this trauma, which might be so severe the only option is to get help. Your reasoning is like you blame the trauma victim who's been attacked and severly beaten for needing help mend his broken bones. That is pretty cruel of you - saying that it's the beaten persons fault for having broken bones, not the assaulter. It's also clear who broke her "bones" when you read the blog and you might be too lazy to do that, and are only stuck on something you didn't like about your mama, like the little mama's boy you are. Your mama is obviously the spoiled rotten child, which is another form of child abuse, to not teach your child right from wrong. And I can see that neither did you (get that lesson). So go home and grow a conscience and become a man. Attacking little ladies... what a whimp.

Ingis - Today 14:59
"Now, her character assignation strategy has gone from infuriating to boring" I think it's very noble of the older sister to wish to assign some better character for her younger sister, who's obviously must lack it as she has bred such a bad boy as yourself. :D

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People who try and belittle you and put you down you should leave.
Me again: I want to make this 100% clear. I would in no circumstances allow any of my children to go to my smearers FACEBOOK accounts and start badmouthing them the way Tara and Brian have been doing here on this lady's blog. No matter if they believe what she writes are lies, I don't agree that such behavior is being a balanced persons actions. People can write what they want on their own blogs, and also on their different channels or YouTube accounts. As long as they don't steal others material and obscure the source I think you can do what you want. Others material might also be to post photos of people that they don't want to have posted on the net, but Brian's aunt had posted a photo that already WAS on the net and she made comments about the photo. Perhaps one might not agree with her opinions, but she has all the right in the world to have these opinions. However, people bullying her and badmouthing her like Brian and Tara did due to her opinions are the ones overstepping. They went into another persons home - her blog - and pissed on her rugs. Figuratively speaking.

Added input 25/3: In MY family I'm the older sister wanting to assign better character, but in this other family it's the other way around, and despite this obvious ERROR of me, little Brain still thinks I'm of his family... How slow can you get. I get confused BECAUSE I'm not his aunt, not cause I'm his "crazy aunt who's confused". No, I'm a STRANGER who's confused - stupid! :D

Freedom is to let go of people who don't honor your rights.
If you have opinions about another persons work, blogs, channels or opinions I don't think it should be too hard to express them in a civil tone and to not insult them. The way both Tara and Brian have choosen to speak to their aunt shows me without doubt that everything written in her blog is all true. This level of total lack of respect for an older relative you only see in abusive families and I'm glad that the younger generation in my family has not reached that level of boundary braking yet. I've always been dead nice to the two children that belongs to those two siblings of mine that are at the moment having a hate campaign going about me, so it would truly be heartbraking if the next generation went all malignant too. It's the same kind of hate campaign our malignant mother had about her siblings during the settling of their mothers left overs, so it's history repeating itself. Mother wanted more then her siblings and made life utter hell for her siblings for two years to achieve this. Just like her golden children are doing now, and also she helps them with, foul lies of mental illness and all sorts of shit was made up to defame those opposing mothers intention. She confused the whole settling, like narcissists always do and where we are now too, as they are confusing the heck out of the lawyer doing the work. He's even tried to con us on their behalf, just to make it go away! (They want 30% more on their lot then they wish us to have. That's one million more!)

People who try to cause you pain should you avoid.
After mother had robbed her nicest brother out of 50 K she went on to bully my father, by forcing him to shift their estate too. He'd earned everything in it, and she'd lived for free on him, keeping all her own earnings to herself, and then she wanted 50% of all his hardwork, while she withhold about 75% or more of all her own wealth so not having to share half of what she had with him. She bullied him as much as she could and he finally gave in, just like her brother did, to get some peace and quiet. Now she's helping my siblings doing the same to me and another brother. But particulary towards me as I'm the one speaking out and revealing it. My brother believe you are a better person to keep you gob shut, just like father believed. That's why I hated my father for so long as I believed so much lies about him, and now I'm angry with him for letting me hating him. He could had told me the whole truth and made me see how much he loved me, instead I feel he also bought lies about me, which confused him. Sometimes when I met him he was very rude to me and hurt my feelings so much I didn't want to see him for months. 

To live honestly is to live lightly.
Why he was rude to me I will never know, but many relatives have been rude to me for no reason what so ever too. Then they turn around and are dead nice to my sister! Just like they thought she was some innocent angel they could trust and I a horrible demon they should shun. I smell smear long way as this was the way a boss I had treated me for years, until she told me about some smear she'd heard about me four years earlier. It turned out she'd been acting so nasty to me all those years ONLY due to that smear. Smear seems to have a huge effect on how people treat you, and now I know the difference between a persons behavior towards you when they believe smear, and when they don't. My boss totally had changed her behavior after she realized she'd listened to evil smear and that was when she felt she had to ask my forgiveness for doing so. She was a christian and a priest so I guess that played part in her need to confess. Most will however try to find proof instead that the smear they'd believed in and acted upon was truthful. That's how bullying just goes on. The priest had finally figured out that nothing she'd been told could be true, cause my smearer had never had anything to do with me. She just made shit up as the church board went against her will and hired me! Yes, the smearer was also a christian, but obviously not a real one, but a faker.

To let go means to remember, to understand, and then leave it.
Please, leave EVERYONE behind that do not treat you right. Don't engage in people that will not respect you. If you feel hurt and badly treated and you see the same people are dead kind to others, leave them. There are bloody hell millions and billions of humans out there. You don't have to be stuck with those that don't want you to thrive and be the best you can be! You deseve to be loved and admired for being the beautiful soul you are. Take care and hope you didn't wet yourself when reading this. he he he - I think it was quite innocent, but then I know alot of people can't stand those "holy narcissists" being criticized in any way. Remember - Tara and Brian both choose to take this out in the open, using their own real names - and I never would had posted their names unless they themselves had. :D

Ingis Erlingsdotter - Magnolia Lane